Call the Mid-Life Midwife!
Hormones are funny old things. When we think of guys who encounter the classic mid-life crisis, it’s all double denim, road rage, rock music and a fling with someone who massages their raging testosterone-fuelled ego.
Women, what do we get? Well, there’s your body clock kicking in and telling you time is running out to reproduce and save the world from extinction. If you’re lucky, you’ve planned ahead and got 2.4 children already in the bag, so you can sit back and wait for the hot flushes.
Nature may have had other ideas for you and taken away any choice in the matter. You may be relieved, or you might be full of regrets, blame and what-ifs.
Or If you’ve been pushing those thoughts of a gurgling mini Winston Churchill to one side for years, that ticking countdown is accompanied by the voices in your head of all the well-intentioned old dears you worked with in your twenties. The ones who swore you’d be settled down, married and pregnant before the year was out...despite you not even having a partner. You swore there was more to life than babies and you had a career path to fulfil!
Then you do the whole career thing, and start thinking there’s more to life than that, and the dreams start. You might start off with a dog. That’s safe, you can get all the unconditional love you need from a dog. But you start looking at your other half and assessing them for parenthood points. Before you know it, you have junior popping up in your nightmares, warning you to get a move on. You can’t remember the last time you had a decent night’s sleep. And you still have to cope with work, where things just aren’t worth all the hassle you used to put up with before.
You might find your emotions getting the better of you and hating the feeling that you can’t control what your mind and body are getting up to.
Before the body-clock timer runs out, you may even have a total personality change from a ‘give me ALL the drugs, NOW’ person, to a tree hugging natural health devotee wanting to give up your well paid job in Finance and do Reiki or read tarot for everyone. At this stage, you find your friends looking at you with slight concern and a not entirely insignificant rising panic.
If any of that sounds familiar, then believe it or not, you are still normal! Maybe not the normal your friends and family think you should be, but you are not alone!
What you have inside of you is the desire to give birth to something, whether that’s an actual, physical baby or a more metaphorical one. Either way, you’re probably struggling with conflicting emotions about making major changes to your established life path, knowing what you want to get away FROM but not totally clear on where you want to run TO.
That’s where I come in. I’m Carolyn Arnold, emotional health coach and mid-life midwife. I’ve been through all of this and come out the other side, and now I help others in a similar situation to find calm and clarity amidst the chaos.
I’m here to help you get really clear on what you want, to be a peace negotiator for your internal conflicts and the *midwife to help you birth the end result.
*Side note, if the end result is a real baby, there are proper midwives to help you with the physical bits...I’ll be there for the emotional preparation!
If this all sounds incredibly familiar to you, then you have a choice.
Things can go on the way they are and you’ll muddle through somehow, even if it takes time and a toll on your emotional wellbeing. Or you could make the journey through this metaphorical/real pregnancy shorter and a lot easier with the help of someone to guide you.
First step- contact me by submitting your details in the form below.
I’ll let you know how you can work with me when you’re ready, and send you some practical, free steps to take until then.
Life doesn’t have to be dull and grey, stifled by weeds and at the mercy of what you can’t control. My wish for you is that you get your life back, find the joy in it and start to blossom as you prepare to birth your mid-life!
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